Obsessing over guy i'm dating still on dating site
I’m aware that I’m doing this and I hate it — but I can’t freaking stop.
Dating in New York is absolute trash for everyone, but I feel like I exacerbate the generally shitty situation because I tend to get overly hopeful when I meet someone new (despite my better judgment) and then get frustrated with myself when things inevitably fall apart in a bad way.
You have to see that feeling things as passionately as you do is a strength, not a weakness.
Sincerely, Wants to Stop Caring Dear Wants to Stop Caring, You care about love because you’ve had it, you’ve felt it, and it brought you happiness for a long time.Fuck that weak sauce and the weak-sauce chickenshit chefs who serve it up to us and pretend that it’s tasty. ” Then he texts you five minutes later: “Did you get the thing about , and a part of you is like “Gross, what’s your damage that you like hackneyed ’80s-era morality plays that were custom-designed to lure middle-class people into a sentimental stupor that only prevented them from waking up to the brutal racist realities of life under their tough but lovable cowboy-daddy, Ronald Reagan? And the guy smiles at you because he can see that you think he’s a fucking freak, but for some reason he’s not worried about it.Instead, I want you to imagine that you’ve just met a guy who loves watching old reruns of in his apartment, he gets all weird and defensive. Then he pulls out a digitally remastered episode and shows you how fascinating it is — Captain Stubing is like this gentle but slightly archaic patriarch, lording his power over the cheerful population of leering alcoholics and disembodied plump round asses in tiny bikini bottoms, eternally circling the pool.So when you talk about love in New York, you might as well be talking about magic or witchcraft or lighting your hair on fire to make the stars align correctly.You’re a fool fixating on something that you can’t control.“It’s out of your hands,” they tell you. Accept it.” But I’m going to guess that you do have a real, abiding belief in love that you’re passionate about.